Your child has shared that they want someone to talk about a worry or concern that they have, and would appreciate talking with someone impartial and independent to help coach them in their situation.
You want to respect their decision and value the maturity and agency they are showing in understanding their own needs. You are encouraged that your child wishes to seek help.
That said, you as a parent may also be incredibly worried that they don’t identify you as being part of the solution. You question yourself: “What could they possibly want to talk about to a stranger that they can’t talk to me about?” “What is it I have missed?” “What is it I am not understanding in their life?” Your mind may be running away with you: “What if they want to hurt themselves…or worse?”
Getting them the help they have asked for feels paramount. You want to be responsive, whilst also keeping a respectful calm about the situation. You want to strike that balance, it feels important to get this right. To some extent you know that based on your own decision making about this, your child will ‘decide’ how much of a priority they are to you.
I can help your child by offering them a free, non-judgemental space to share their own experience of their friendships. We will work together to identify the key areas of their happiness and discomfort within their relationships and take the time to recognise and acknowledge their emotions, understand their thoughts and feelings safely. I will teach them tools to empower them and by working together we will develop strategies that they can use themselves confidently and comfortably, coaching and mentoring them to feel a sense of confidence as they navigate their friendships.
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Following an attempted break in at our home last year, I put up a post on here asking for suggestions of how to help my 8 year old who was experiencing severe fear and anxiety. She had not slept in her own bed for 3 months following the incident nor had she been able to go in another room by herself. I was really worried about her mental well being as she just wasn't herself.
Vidya at Vivid Outcomes was recommended to me and I cannot thank this lovely lady enough. She has been nothing short of amazing with my daughter, forming a bond and building trust, listening to her, supporting her and having so much patience and empathy. After just a few sessions, she built up her confidence enough to sleep in her bed again and everyday since has just got better and better to the point she no longer needs therapy. Vidya has helped her healing process (and mine) and my little girl has got her spark back and I couldn't be more grateful! For anyone needing support, or someone to talk to, please reach out to Vidya. She is amazing at what she does! My daughter is as happy as I am
